Not every man aspires to be an alpha male.
Some men like to see themselves as a “sigma male.”
Whereas an alpha male sees himself as leader of the pack, sigma males are lone wolves. [Read more…] about Should You Date A Sigma Male?
The Art of Finding the Right Guy
Dating
Never Date An Alpha Male
A lot of men genuinely believe that women are only attracted to alpha males.
They believe—and this is going to gross you out—that women are “programmed” to constantly keep an eye out for higher status “males” [Read more…] about Never Date An Alpha Male
Let Go of Past Pain
What’s the most awful, horrific thing that’s happened to you in relationships?
For me, it was experiencing the sheer hatred of a man who, once he no longer had me, desired to destroy me.
It’s happened to me more than once over my life. It always catches me off guard. [Read more…] about Let Go of Past Pain
Why He Doesn’t Treat You Well
Mat Shaffer said something in our interview that I think is helpful:
Our relationships are a mirror “for where we are at in our own journey within ourselves.”
If you’re having beautiful, healthy relationships, that’s great news! [Read more…] about Why He Doesn’t Treat You Well
When You Do Everything Right & Still Can’t Find Good Love
Here’s something I didn’t understand back in my twenties:
You attract who you are.
Not what you WANT, but who you ARE.
That’s a quote from Mat Shaffer’s interview with me, [Read more…] about When You Do Everything Right & Still Can’t Find Good Love
Is He a Dater or a Relater?
In the 20th Century:
If a guy says he’s open to a relationship, he’s open to a relationship.
In the 21st Century:
His behavior will show you if he’s open to a relationship. [Read more…] about Is He a Dater or a Relater?
Don’t Work on Being More Attractive – Do THIS
In the 20th Century:
Be more attractive to men.
In the 21st Century:
Practice the hard skills of loving.
It seemed so obvious at the time: [Read more…] about Don’t Work on Being More Attractive – Do THIS
What’s Wrong With You??
In the 20th Century:
It’s your responsibility to be attractive.
In the 21st Century:
It’s your “responsibility” to be attractive. (Airquotes intended.) [Read more…] about What’s Wrong With You??
Be The Woman Who Truly “Gets” Him
In the 20th Century:
The best way to show him love is to do nice things for him.
In the 21st Century:
The best way to show him love is to understand him. [Read more…] about Be The Woman Who Truly “Gets” Him
The Experience He’s Seeking: Is It You?
In the 20th Century:
He wants a catch.
In the 21st Century:
He wants someone who makes him feel alive.
Yes, you could be slim and gorgeous and accomplished and fascinating… [Read more…] about The Experience He’s Seeking: Is It You?
You Should Ask Him Lots of Questions, Right?
In the 20th Century:
Interrogate.
In the 21st Century:
Invite.
If you want to get to know someone, what’s the first thing you do? [Read more…] about You Should Ask Him Lots of Questions, Right?
Don’t Impress Him, PLEASE
In the 20th Century:
Impress.
In the 21st Century:
Connect.
No wonder we get so nervous about meeting new people. [Read more…] about Don’t Impress Him, PLEASE
From Serial Killers to Heartbreak: Rethinking Safety in Love
In the 20th Century:
Safety means making sure he’s not a serial killer or just wants to get in your pants.
In the 21st Century:
Safety means building trust, communication, boundaries, and accountability into your relationship. [Read more…] about From Serial Killers to Heartbreak: Rethinking Safety in Love
We Are Most Attracted To People Who…
In the 20th Century:
Attractiveness is objective.
In the 21st Century:
Attraction is subjective.
Line up a group of men in a row. [Read more…] about We Are Most Attracted To People Who…
Guys Just Care About Looks, Don’t They?
In the 20th Century:
Appearance matters.
In the 21st Century:
Familiarity matters.
I can’t believe the wool has been pulled over our eyes for so long. [Read more…] about Guys Just Care About Looks, Don’t They?
