How to Navigate Your Differences

Coping with Conflict

Is Your Relationship Built to Weather the Storm?

In the 20th Century:
You know you’re good together if you hardly ever fight.

In the 21st Century:
You know you’re good together if you can handle each other’s emotions. [Read more…] about Is Your Relationship Built to Weather the Storm?

Say Something or Let It Go?

In the 20th Century:
If you love him, you’ll let it slide.

In the 21st Century:
If you love him, you’ll call him out on it.

Once upon a time, you did what you were told and didn’t complain. [Read more…] about Say Something or Let It Go?

When Is It Time to Walk Away?

If there’s one thing we women do amazingly well…

It’s making a bad situation work.

No matter what we’re given, we can find a way. We can do a lot with very little. We just adjust our expectations and feel grateful for what we have. [Read more…] about When Is It Time to Walk Away?

Meet Your Parts

Do you ever let yourself down?

Do you ever react in ways that later embarrass you?

Do you ever want things you know you shouldn’t want?

Or do things you said you’d never do? [Read more…] about Meet Your Parts

Why The Pleasure Fades in Relationships (And How to Get It Back)

It’s easy to practice the Pleasure Principle in the early days of a relationship.

Those early days are all about pleasure.

Giving pleasure. Sharing pleasure. Overdosing on gorgeous pleasure. [Read more…] about Why The Pleasure Fades in Relationships (And How to Get It Back)

Use This Magic Phrase for Tough Conversations

When I was in my 20s, I thought I knew how to bring up tough conversations with a guy.

I used a version of the “sandwich” technique.

Start off with something positive, bring up the issue, then suggest a solution. Finish off with a positive vision of how much better our relationship will be as a result of this change. [Read more…] about Use This Magic Phrase for Tough Conversations

Got Boundaries?

When is the last time you enforced a boundary?

In other words…

You told someone that a certain behavior wasn’t okay. You explained what would happen if they did it again. They did it—AGAIN. You followed through. [Read more…] about Got Boundaries?

Why He’s Such a Jerk

He means to make your life terrible.

He doesn’t care about you. If he did, he wouldn’t behave like that.

He’s so annoying.

And his family are all awful, too.

Why does he act this way? [Read more…] about Why He’s Such a Jerk

Fighting a Lot? You Need These 3 Essential Conflict Skills

Have you ever been with a partner who had temper tantrums?

When he got upset, he didn’t catch himself before saying something he regretted—he SAID it. He said LOTS of things… and didn’t regret it afterwards. [Read more…] about Fighting a Lot? You Need These 3 Essential Conflict Skills

Stop Nagging and Get What You Want – Dr. Jessica Higgins

All you want to do is get him to help.

To make a LITTLE effort.

To CARE about your needs.

But every time you try to talk to him about it, he shuts down. He fobs you off. [Read more…] about Stop Nagging and Get What You Want – Dr. Jessica Higgins

Why Is My Boyfriend Mean to Me?

Have you ever been with a guy who’s turned on you and raged:

You did this! You did that! You’re such a you-know-what. I know who you really are, you [BLEEP].”

That’s a verbal attack. [Read more…] about Why Is My Boyfriend Mean to Me?

Save Your Relationship… with PLEASURE

In all relationships, there’s a time when it stops being fun…

And you realize how many problems you have.

It feels like it’s over because you don’t enjoy each other anymore. [Read more…] about Save Your Relationship… with PLEASURE

He is Talking to Another Girl: What Should I Do?

You’ve just seen an exchange your guy had on social media with a woman you don’t know. She’s absolutely GORGEOUS, and the subtext is definitely flirty.

What do you do?

First of all, don’t panic! [Read more…] about He is Talking to Another Girl: What Should I Do?