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When I first came on the scene 20 years ago, men were already teaching each other a clever way to attract women:
Just use psychology to tell her things about herself.
Surprise her with these pseudo “deep insights” that amaze her with their accuracy [Read more…] about Does He Know You Better Than You Know Yourself?
I caught up with the mother of one of my high school classmates the other day.
She told me that my friend was doing great. Still single! Had her own business. Did her own thing. Was fed up with men after a slew of bad dates. [Read more…] about Before You Offer Him A Shoulder To Cry On…
Tough Truth:
Hiding how you look won’t make him fall in love with you.
Lead with your beautiful body—let it filter out the wrong men.
Women who aren’t body confident often make one terrible mistake: [Read more…] about The Body Test
Tough truth:
Impressing him won’t make him love you.
Having fun together is what makes him want to see more of you.
The “catch” model of dating is outdated. [Read more…] about Stop Impressing Men
Tough truth:
We blame men for breaking our hearts.
But sometimes we break our own hearts.
We mistake the high for love.
You know the high I mean: [Read more…] about Don’t Mistake The High for Love
In my last post, I shared why I’m a fan of the Slow Burn.
There’s something delicious about drawing out the romantic tension over weeks and months. [Read more…] about What if He’s Not Making A Move… On Purpose?
When a new relationship begins, there are two ways it can go.
The first is the fast path.
You meet someone. There’s instant chemistry. You fall into bed, and the sparks determine whether you keep seeing each other. [Read more…] about Fast Spark or Slow Burn? Here’s What Works
I’m not courting controversy, but I really believe this:
Much of the dating and relationship advice out there is actually dangerous.
That’s a strong word, but it’s the right one.
It’s designed to make you appeal to the type of men most likely to take advantage of you. [Read more…] about Watch Out For Dangerous Love Advice
It’s scary to consider the idea that love may not be the main emotion at play in your relationship.
You need to believe your partner loves you. Questioning that—even for a moment—can feel catastrophic. [Read more…] about Can You Love Each Other & Still Hate Each Other Sometimes?
Do you think it’s possible for a man to love you a lot and just never show it?
Do you think it’s possible for a man to be totally selfish and still love you?
Do you think it’s possible for a man to be incredibly hurtful and still love you? [Read more…] about Look For This Clue to How He Feels
I feel a bit cringe when I write anything about “How to Make a Man Love You More.”
Because there’s something important I’m leaving out.
You CAN’T make some men love you more. [Read more…] about His Love Capacity
I wish someone had taught me what I’m teaching you now.
Twenty years ago, I didn’t know how to fix a relationship or how to end it. I’d let things get so bad he’d break up with me.🤦♀️
Bad boyfriends broke me, but they also taught me the need to grow a backbone. [Read more…] about Difficult Relationships With Difficult Men Part III
When you’re in a difficult relationship, you just want him to change.
But he’s so stubborn. He refuses to change his hurtful behaviors or get any help.
And why should he? [Read more…] about Difficult Relationship With Difficult Men Part II
What do you do when all that great relationship advice doesn’t work with your particular partner?
He mocks you when you express your feelings. He refuses to try anything new. He maintains that you’re the problem, not him. [Read more…] about Difficult Relationships With Difficult Men: Part I
In the past few years, I’ve noticed something unsettling.
As bad as the gender wars were when I started my career, they’ve somehow gotten worse.
Social media is a battlefield—men complaining about women, women complaining about men. [Read more…] about The REAL Reason Men & Women Are At War
