Your Brilliance Expert Author

Amy Waterman

About Amy Waterman

Amy Waterman, M.A., is a Love Educator, Pleasure Revolutionary, author, and founder of Your Brilliance. Over the past two decades, she’s helped tens of thousands of women stop pleasing men, start pleasing themselves, and live their most brilliant life. Her books include The Pleasure Principle, Sanctuary Signals, Unleash Your Pleasure Power, Effortlessly Likable, Your Instant Love Coach, and Time to Slim.

The Four Burner Theory That Explains Men

Why does your guy spend so much time and energy on everything BUT his relationship with you?

He goes to the gym instead of hanging out with you.
He puts in long hours at work instead of having dinner with you.
He messages his buddies but fails to respond to your texts. [Read more…] about The Four Burner Theory That Explains Men

What Makes Him Commit

The vast majority of dating advice boils down to one thing:

Attraction.

If you’re attractive – if you know “how to attract men” – you’ll overflow with dating options and end up with the man of your dreams.

Except for one teeny tiny little problem… [Read more…] about What Makes Him Commit

Does He Express Contempt Towards Women?

There was a devastating article in The Guardian recently, written by a teenage girl.

She wanted us to know what kinds of things she was experiencing online.

She explained about the videos, posts, and comments that showed up in her feed talking about “females.” [Read more…] about Does He Express Contempt Towards Women?

What Should You Be Doing Differently?

Let’s kick off the week with an in-your-face question:

“If I really believed in myself, what would I be doing differently?”

This question hits me hard. [Read more…] about What Should You Be Doing Differently?

You’re At The Mercy of His Childhood

One falls in love, and then learns, for the duration, that one is at the mercy of someone else’s childhood.” – Hanif Kureishi

When you were growing up, did you have a caregiver who:

Delighted in you
Was admirable to you
Stayed emotionally steady when you were upset? [Read more…] about You’re At The Mercy of His Childhood

What Happens When You Fall Apart?

Do you have these three things in your life?

Someone who is paying attention.
Someone who will respond if you fall apart.
A sense that you don’t have the manage the whole world on your own. [Read more…] about What Happens When You Fall Apart?

The Opposite of Love

The opposite of love isn’t hate.

(Terry Real even coined a name for it: “normal marital hatred.” Of course you’re going to occasionally hate the person you’re spending the rest of your life with. Love and hate coexist.) [Read more…] about The Opposite of Love

Scare Men Away in 2 Easy Steps

Here’s how you scare men away in two easy steps:

Care about the relationship more than he does.
Do more for him than he does for you.

Ouch – harsh, but true. [Read more…] about Scare Men Away in 2 Easy Steps

If You’re Not His First Priority

Men are great.

But life can feel a little bit easier when we have the ability to put them in a box.

When you’re love-centered, like so many of us are, you put your relationship at the center of your life. [Read more…] about If You’re Not His First Priority