Answer: Of course not! Some men change. But there’s one crucial ingredient. Without it, change won’t happen.
So what’s the ingredient? Pain.
He’s got to feel some natural sense of guilt or shame at what he’s doing. He’s got to come face to face with the consequences of his behavior on the woman he loves. It’s got to horrify him, to the point that he’s willing to do the hard work of learning to regulate his emotions.
But if you protect him from those consequences—if you stay with him no matter what he does to you, if you’re always forgiving him—there’s no pain and he won’t stop.
